String of hearts by Louise DockerWhen you communicate with someone – not just in the sense of having a conversation for the sake of it or to get to know each other better (for which asking salient questions always works wonders so don’t be too shy or self-absorbed to ask about what you want to know), but with the purpose of achieving some sort of consensus that could lead to a mutually desirable result, when you’re negotiating, in other words – the result you achieve is determined directly by the breadth of the parameters you’re willing to give life/the Tao within which to operate.
Choose the highest possible good as an outcome
So if you begin by intending that whatever the outcome is, it will be something that’s for the highest good of all concerned, even if it doesn’t look anything like what you’d have initially thought should be the result, you’ll invariably be delighted with the outcome.
Steps to instigating a viable dialogue
So the steps to instigating such a conversation are to first, centre yourself, relax your body, breathe slowly, sink your weight, arrive on the planet, make yourself aware of the presence (the Tao) informing and expressing itself through you and the other; second, to clarify the intention, which is to elicit a result that will be optimally mutually beneficial, even though you don’t know how or in what form that might eventually materialize; third, empty your forebrain of egocentric agenda, to give space for the Tao of the situation to operate freely; fourth, open your heart and allow your love, your innate natural goodness to radiate freely, from the midst of your chest in a parabolic arc to encompass the other and simultaneously enable you to be encompassed by theirs (if even just in its latent form); and fifth arrange your body posture to face them squarely as much as possible (do this mentally if talking remotely on the phone for instance) and allow whatever communication arises from deep in your pelvic floor to surface and pass through your lips as a string of words.
Of all these steps the most important is to open your heart to embrace the other with love.
Empty yourself to receive the other
Having instigated the dialogue, the next step is to sink your consciousness back into the midbrain, let go of your own agenda again and make space in your heart for the other to respond.
Naturally it’s impossible to exemplify this sufficiently to cover all possible types of negotiation or outcome, but using the above template is a viable start to achieving a wholly different set of more advantageous outcomes in future negotiations of any sort.
With love from an open heart, Supercharged
The most important communicational step of all is to open your heart to embrace the other with love.
